Sunday, November 19, 2006

Swingers The Movie: "Alpha Male" vs "Average Nice Guy" Who Gets the Women

Tip! * When a girl, particularly one you've just met at a bar or any social venue, treats you with disrespect, it's up to you, as the 'alpha male,' to ignore her. Shut her out, move on, and she'll eventually come back to you the same way a dog would: with her tail between her legs, apologetic, and hungry for your respect.

The movie Swingers does a good job in displaying both the "Alpha Male" and the "Average Nice Guy" characters. Any man who wants to learn how to attract women Swingers is a great movie to use for modeling and if you are trying to improve your relationships with women I am sure you will see a little of the character Mike in you.

Trent played by Vince Vaughn is the ultimate "Alpha Male"; throughout the entire movie he displays his sense of humor, playfulness, and cocky funny. On the flip side there is Mike played by Jon Favreau who is the ultimate "Nice Guy" who thinks he should be a perfect gentleman and respect women all the time. He also has "just" gotten out of a relationship almost 6 months ago and can't quite get over it.

The scene in which Trent displays being an "Alpha Male" attracting a women is when him and Mike go to Vegas to help Mike forget about his ex and after having gambled for a bit are ready to "Get Some Action." When the cocktail waitress with whom they ordered a drink but lost there money before she could give it to them comes back he orders two drinks and tells her that if she gets the bartender to go easy on the water there is a nice big 50 cent piece in it for her. What makes this scene even better is Mike reveals what is going on in every "Average Joe's" mind by getting upset because he thinks Trent is a total asshole. Needless to say she comes back with the drinks and Mike instead of seeing it for what it is thinks the whole thing was some kind of Jedi Mind trick.

Tip! 4) Feel comfortable in your own skin. An alpha male is happy with or without any particular woman, since he views women as sources of fun in his life—no more and no less.

Mike displays his "Nice Guy" mentality approach to women during a party, now, Mike and a friend of his from back home are standing in a passageway looking at all the beautiful women, after some time of doing this he finally builds enough courage to talk to a woman so he has his friend wish him luck and then goes and says "Hi" to a couple of women. She then asks him what kind of car he drives instead of ignoring her question are busting on her for an obvious attempt to see if he has any money or power, thereby controlling the power in the conversation he simply answers her thereby giving her the power and since he has neither money or power she simply shuts him out. Now, feeling rejected and believing he has had no luck at the party after only dealing with one woman he simply waits with his friends till they are ready to leave the party.

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In the end of the movie ironically Mike does end up pulling a girl, however, he gets her by displaying his own alpha male along with good rapport skills. Even though the woman with whom he pulls seemed to be very needy and lonely and in real life would more than like looked more like a young Janet Reno than Heather Graham.

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Friday, September 15, 2006

How to Get a Girl to Like You

By John Alexander

We've all had that special woman in our lives. You know... the one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and a perfect face. She dates the more "adept" guys... but how can you get her to like you?

While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality. A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead and get what he wants out of life.

Ironically, what this means then is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you.

That's because to get a girl to like you, you should come from a mindset of high value. Never come from a position of neediness.

So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are:

1. Nonchalance.

2. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. (By that I mean, if she likes you that's awesome, but if not, there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.)

The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you. Instead you should be a challenge for her.

In addition to placing a high value on yourself, you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Women are easy to make friends with.)

Also date as many women as you can... don't restrict yourself only to dating "that one special girl."

You see, the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that special woman is, "God, I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem.

Also, whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she too feels attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon... and it's much more powerful in women than men.

Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four babes at his table? That's social proof in action.

By the way, it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to feel something strong for her.

Here's the key though... you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as that girl you really like.

If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind, then that gives her power over you, and makes her lose attraction to you.

So, you're free to think that a woman's amazing. Just remember that lots of other girls are amazing too. That way you won't become needy.

So remember, place a high value on yourself, make her earn your attention, and hang out with as many women as possible... those are the three secrets for getting a girl to like you.

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John Alexander is the developer of How to Become an Alpha Male, a seduction success system for men. Discover the excitement and pleasure of having gorgeous, horny women automatically drawn to you like a magnet.

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How to Attract Girls Even if You're Short

By John Alexander

Let me mention a few names and you can tell me what they all have in common:

- Al Pacino
- Humphrey Bogart
- Napoleon

Okay, no surprise here... they're all short guys. But you know what? They were all awesome with the ladies (and not just because of their celebrity status... they were all players before they became famous.)

In fact, the reason they could attract girls was because of their strong inner attitude.

There are a couple things you can do in the short term. Wearing boots right now will subtly add 2 or 3 inches to your height.

Also, when you dress, wear vertical stripes and tight clothes. That will make you look SLENDER, which will make you appear taller.

Long term, one way short guys can be more dominant physically is to work out. In fact that really should be first and foremost. If you've got muscles, it helps A LOT, not only with your physical appearance, but also with your confidence levels, strong inner attitude, and poise. So get in the gym.

When you're muscular and you're a short guy, you become like a pit bull. And by the way, I'd like you to experiment with that.. do not always be the nice guy who's polite. For the next few months, try to let your "inner badass" come out a bit when you're with girls.

Do the affirmation, "I'm becoming like the pitbull who can dominate the bigger dogs."

Once you start feeling more and more confident in a few weeks, change your affirmation to, "I AM like the pitbull who can dominate bigger dogs."

I've noticed that a lot of short guys develop a VERY strong presence by having cultivated that inner badass.

Now, I'm not saying you should become a jerk... but just try to balance out that inner nice guy.

Next thing to do long term is to GIVE UP any approval-seeking. Who cares what women think of you? Go through life doing what you want and being who you are. (That is so key by the way... those guys I list above were players exactly because they went through life doing what they wanted and being true to who they were.)

You see, short guys who are badasses really have a bit of an advantage. Because of their stature, they automatically are able to have more rapport with chicks (who tend to be short themselves) than the guys who are beanpoles. And when you add to that a bit of a "badboy" element, it makes chicks dripping wet with attraction.

The bottom line is this: only if YOU feel uncomfortable with your height will it affect you with the girls. If you feel completely comfortable with your height, then they will too.

By the way, when it comes to tall guys, what women find attractive about them isn't their height. It's their dominance. If you have a tight sense of inner confidence and project a personality that sucks them in, height will be the furthest thing from their minds.

So to sum up, be true to yourself, take risks in life, cultivate your inner badass, and stop caring about anyone's approval. And hit the gym ASAP. And do the fashion things I said.

Then you'll attract girls without worrying about irrelevant things like height.

John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha Male, a girl-attracting success system that will have you easily drawing women toward you like a magnet. Find out more by going to How to Become an Alpha Male.


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